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And a few of those words are “submission” and “authority”

Chapter Two: A Wife’s Understanding of G-d

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As a wife, mother, and follower of Messiah, it’s important that I understand G-d. Who He is. What He says. And how I am to live my life for Him. I also need to understand that I am under the protection of G-d’s authority. My view of Him is to be G-d centered, not self-centered. I serve Him- not the other way around. I think this is key if I am to be an Excellent Wife. If I am submitting to the authority of G-d, I should then be submitting to the authority of my husband. (There’s that dirty word again!)

Submission is such a tricky thing because society teaches us that we are to be our own, independent woman. No man should tell us what to do or who to be. And if you have a godly husband he will be trying not to do those things. Our bible doesn’t tell men to boss us around or tell us what to do or how to think or how to dress. Our bible tells us that they are to love us. Ephesians 5: 22-23 is the perfect description of biblical love between a man and a wife. A woman is to submit to her husband and her husband is to love her as Messiah loves the church. That’s a pretty big love!

We should also understand that our G-d loves us and cares about us! Psalm 116: 1,2,5 tells us that G-d is gracious, compassionate, and righteous. He listens when we cry out to Him. He’s there through all of our struggles, and we can trust that He will always be good and righteous. Even if we don’t perceive it that way!

And remember: G-d is purposefully working in our lives! Romans 8: 28-29 promises us that all of our life experiences will be used for our good. That includes evil! Ms. Peace uses adversity that changes our character as we become more like Messiah. If we respond biblically, G-d promises to use all things for our good if we love G-d. John 14:15 tells us we love G-d by being obedient. We show our love by keeping His commandments.

The last point Ms. Peace makes is G-d wants us to be a joyful and fulfilled wife. She cites Proverbs 31: 13,18,25,28,29. While she’s not wrong, it’s my belief we ought to tread lightly aw aren’t being and Excellent Wife solely for the husband that praises us. Ladies, there are going to be many things that go un-praised. And if we are focusing too much on the praise of our husbands and not pleasing our Father we are going to end up unfulfilled and sad. If we are doing our best at being excellent wives, G-d will be glorified and if our husbands praise us then it’s a sweet added bonus.


I am a Torah observant believer in Messiah. This next section will be Torah based and if you are not a Torah observant believer in Messiah (but are a believer in Messiah), this isn’t an invitation to debate on whether or not the law has been nailed to the cross and we are now free to rest in Christ and can therefore live free from the law of Moses. I don’t believe that and what I am about to expound upon from Ms. Peace’s book puts her final pages in Chapter 2 in a Messianic light. Feel free to keep reading, but please know that I will not respond to (but they will be posted) comments that are encouraging debate. I welcome all questions and comments, but I will not entertain antinomian remarks. Thank you, ladies!


“What Wives Need to Know About Their Works and Themselves”

G-d has prepared “good works” for the Christian wife to do. Ephesians 2:10 tells us that we are His workmanship, created in Messiah for good works, which G-d prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Good works is Torah observance. Proverbs 6:23 tells us the commandment is a lamp and the teaching is a light. Messiah is referencing Deut 4:6-8 when He tell us in Matthew 5: 14-16 that we are to let our lamp (His commandments) shine before others that they may see our good works (obedience to those commands). If we are obedient to G-d in keeping his commandments, our good works as wives will fall right into that obedience. Our deeds have eternal worth! 2 Corinthians 5:10 tells us that we have eternal rewards for our “good deeds”. (Remember, our good deeds cannot be our own moral judgement. Good deeds have to fall in line with what our Creator defines as good deeds.)

As followers of Messiah we don’t have to be afraid! 1 Peter 3:6 tells us that we are to do right without any fear. Ms. Peace tells us on page 13 that G-d is the determiner of what is “right”. Psalm 34:14 tells us to turn away from what is evil and do what is right. Evil is anything that goes against G-d and His word. We should always do what is right and not give in to our fear. Sometimes (and I am most guilty of this!) that we are afraid to do what G-d wants and we won’t have our own way.

And lastly, a follower of Messiah does not have to sin. I’m NOT saying we will be without sin or that we are sinless. I’m saying that as you walk out Torah and become more like the image of Messiah and develop fruits of the Spirit you will be making choices to either sin (lawlessness) or be obedient (keep His commandments). And as we study our bibles, pray to G-d, and walk out His will for our lives sin will become easier and easier to overcome. And just when we overcome one area in our life He will expose another area we ought to tame. But remember, we DO have a decision to do what is right in G-d’s eyes or what is right in the world’s eyes.

“God’s Protective Authority”

1 Corinthians 11:3 tells us as wives that we are under the authority of our husbands. G-d created it this way therefore we can completely trust that He knows what is best for us– even if we think we do! Ephesians 5:23 also says that the husband is the head of the wife, as Messiah also is the head of the church. No husband has absolute authority over his wife because G-d has absolute authority. (Col 2: 9-10) If our husbands ask us to do something that goes against the command of G-d we are to obey G-d and not man. That is why it is so important that we don’t make our husbands idols in our life.

It’s important to remember that G-d has placed the woman in the safest place possible: under the headship of her husband that is under the headship of Messiah that is under the headship of G-d. We have so many umbrellas over us that even though we might not agree with our station, we can definitely agree that G-d loves us and cares about us and that we are special to Him. Why else would He protect us with such care?! Despite what modern society tells me, I am so thankful that there are some responsibilities and burdens that G-d did not intend for women to have. And as Ms. Peace states on page 17:

A truly wise woman will accept that, appreciate it, and submit graciously to G-d’s plan of protection for her.


I find it interesting we are so willing to profess our faith in a Messiah and submit to G-d, but when it comes to our own husbands we bristle at the thought. (Don’t worry ladies, I’m in this boat, too!)

If we truly love G-d, we will be obedient to Him and keep His commandments.

It’s my prayer that this book is edifying you and along with your scripture reading, bringing you closer to understanding your role and position as a wife. I understand that some of these topics can seem down right offensive. Believe me, I was one of the most offended and if I’m being honest I still get offended! But we have to trust that we serve a perfect G-d who loves us and has the perfect plan for us. Many blessings to you!

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